Good Things Come When You Do What You Love

"Be Careful not to compare your life to others. You don't know what they're going through behind the scenes or how they got to where they are.  Use social media for inspiration and communication vs intimidation and comparison." 

Koya Webb

 I saw this caption two days ago from Koya Webb who is amazing at being a holistic and wellness coach. She was inspiring at the Stronger event in L.A also.  I see this all too well, and have cut off a few "friends" because of this. Friendships being broken because of envy. And this envy stems from insecure people who become enriched with jealousy because of what other people are doing or attaining. But, why? That's not your shine. Everyone has a gift, some people figure it out sooner in life and that's just it.  There will always be someone smarter, prettier, more popular, more outgoing and so on....Heck, you might encounter someone who possesses all these qualities! When you compare yourself to others, you hold yourself back from your own accomplishments. It's not worth it and you make things worse for yourself. You look conniving, inauthentic, and bitter. You're over there being jealous and bitter, but that person is over there blowing up. Who's winning?? Be authentic and brutally honest with yourself:  where you are in life, where do you want to be, and what are the realistic steps needed to attain what it is that you desire.  

I came a longgg way and boy oh boy it wasn't easy. I was the most attitudinal girl--you couldn't say anything to me without a blow up. I would fight you in a heart-beat. Even my professors in college knew how I was. I was challenging for no reason!!  But I am not that girl anymore because I realized it wasn't doing me any good. I was holding myself back from a fulfilled life. Shoot, I want to live many more years and accomplish a lot of things.  Now, I am still very sassy, but not angry. I've learned how to manage my anger by figuring out the intangible things in life that make me happy. Things that fulfill me. Now there are days that I am disappointed or not feeling like I am good enough so guess what I do to bounce back.  I focus on my passion which is my blog or I talk to myself. Affirmations work the best! 

Self love is not a easy process but I've learned that once you focus on the things that you love the most, it's attainable.  Doing what you love helps so much because it doesn't feel like work. You just enjoy life and go with the flow. 

And please don't let social media fool you. Some people like myself use social media as a business. But I am being myself, same online and offline.  Try not to get so caught up in competition, you will always lose because you're not being yourself. The only competition is in the mirror. You don't know what people are going through when they put that phone down. When you're feeling terrible about yourself---Put your phone down and disconnect! Unplug from social media for goodness sake.  It's ok!! Just focus on doing the things that you love. Figure out what that is and trust me, life will feel so much easier. Be well. Muah!

By the way, these pics were taken at the Aerie store at Nia's Event. She's so inspirational!!