10 Things Grown People Should Not Do

Adulthood. Seems fun right? Society proclaims that this is the time when we are supposed to be on top of our game and act right—-we have life experiences, confidence, problem solving skills and so on. And we are supposed to be the most behaved adult ever, but sadly we are not. I know what most of you are thinking—no one is perfect. However, I don’t want to hear that. I am tired of the cop out excuses to avoid change. Here’s a look at the things that grown people should not do (and this list pertains to me as well):

1) Stop Walking Around Drunk: Isn’t that sad? I just saw my neighbor walking around drunk with a red cup in his hand. And he had a woman chauffering him around in a circle around the block to get the drunk out of him. If you’re drinking is so debilitating that you have to be babysat then you have a problem. This is no longer a hobby, this is an illness.

2) Assume That Your Current Job Will Last Forever: Covid-19 unexpectedly taught us well. You never know what will happen in life so try not to put all your eggs into one basket. If you’ve been working for some time now or you’re just starting a new job, try setting aside some money from each paycheck so that you can cover all your bills and expenses for at least 3 months. Try to prepare in advance as much as you can.

3) Lose Manners Because of Seniority- Just because you are an elder does not give you the right to interrupt someone before you on the line. It’s rude. I believe that the older you are, the more example you should show for someone else.

4) Thinking that your age determines your productivity- Just because you are a certain age does not mean that you are more productive than someone younger. You might be a little wiser, but it doesn’t make you more productive. And being younger doesn’t mean you have all the time in the world to be productive. You will age real fast and not know what hit you.

5) Stop Continuing to be Stupid- learn to listen to people and make your own decisions. Don’t accept all advice that you get from everyone, because advice is autobiography that comes with the life experiences of others. You have your own mind. Use your own intuition, critical thinking skills and common sense before you act.

6) Keep Repeating Your Problems Over and Over- stop talking about things that happened 40 years ago and blaming your parents. If you are between the ages of 30-50 and you’re still complaining about something that happened in your childhood, please get therapy. Your parents did the best they can and now you are an adult. Put the past behind you and change that cycle. Get over the pity.

7) Not Learning lessons- then walking around playing the blame game. Blaming everyone for the problems that you created. That’s not the answer. Take responsibility and work on the mistakes to become a better person.

8) Feeling entitled because someone is your family or even friend—expecting people to make you happy. Please stop trying to hold people accountable because of your limitations. No one is supposed to please you but yourself. For example, your family member doesn’t have to give you money because you ask for it. Get out there, do for yourself and create your own life.

9) Stop Getting Upset when people change their minds- they have their right. It doesn’t mean that they aren’t accountable, responsible, or a bad person…It just means that they changed their mind. You can be upset all you want, but at the end of the day—it is what it is.

10) Expecting people to be the same year after year. How old are you that you don’t think people should grow? Yes it’s called growth. People are supposed to change for the better. Don’t try to make people feel bad for the choices they make with their own life. It could be something simple as someone not showing up to your annual birthday party one year because they didn’t want to. Instead of being mad, accept it and move on.

and the list can go on……..

XOXO

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