HERE’S WHY YOU NEED TO STOP EXPECTING YOU IN OTHERS
1) STOP expecting others to fulfill you: YOU are responsible for your own happiness. Not me, not your mother, not your father, not your bae, no one!!! So stop getting mad at others when they don’t invite you to their bbq, hang out with you when you want, or take you on their vacation with them. Use every opportunity as a learning session. That’s not their responsibility to make you feel validated or fulfilled. Grow up, move on and create your own life.
2) STOP expecting others to like you: Listen when you are trying to strive in life—don’t expect to be liked much. Look at Beyonce…she sings and minds her business and has the most haters ever. Everyone is not going to like you so do you and be authentic to you. What you can do is surround yourself with people who love and accept you rather than trying to be liked by folks who don’t care about you.
3) STOP expecting people to change: This is who they are—accept them. Change is a personal and individual choice. It requires analyzing the “self”. People have to want to change and do better. Just worry about you and create boundaries for your own self. With these boundaries, condition your mind on how to approach interactions with these folks.
4) STOP expecting people to read your mind: Of lately I have been telling people exactly how I feel and it feels so good. Clear communication creates clear boundaries. Try not to set others up for failure by thinking that they should read your mind. It’s only gonna drive you crazy and build up unwarranted animosity that isn’t called for. So open your mouth and speak.
Okay I am going to stop here. I think this list is good enough for now. I hope you enjoy and see you next week!!
Carpe Diem
Alecia